Come to think of it, I go through this every day. Both can be desperate and pathetic, or hopefully become a rather worthwhile and pleasant journey. Sometimes you have the moments where you wonder if you have any friends. We all know rationally that this way of thinking is silly, but sometimes that is such a real feeling.
Sometimes your old friends get too run of the mill, or you get too comfortable with them, that you just touch base once a month, or longer. They're doing their thing and you are doing yours (hopefully). Maybe it is good that you can go that long without talking to them--a sign of security. But, they have somehow fallen from your daily or weekly routine. I really wonder if you could go back from this to the way it was. Maybe it can be something better than before. Yes, I think it can!
Sometimes you make new friends: It is real fun and intense with each other, then somewhere along the line things change and you re-categorize them, either an upgrade or a downgrade. It always sucks to get the demotion. Is that for reasons that you didn't beat them to the punch, or is it like some quasi rejection? I don't know. I don't think that this has happened to me recently, but I have been wondering about it a bit. Anytime you have developing friendships, I think you go through periods of insecurity and adjustment. I know about the adjustment part, and it is good, so long as there is effort to improve the bond. You have to adjust or perish. I adjust and I do not quit, so long as I feel that it is worth it. Yes, it is worth it!
So, I add my bit to the comic, "Duh, must keep the friends I have! Duh, go out to eat food with them!! Duh, must understand new friend's challenges and feelings!!! Duh, not give up!!!!"
Duh....what wisdom you alls got, eh?
3 years ago