Wednesday, September 05, 2007

Don't know what to say...

...But I'll try anyway.

I came back to work today from a long weekend to find that two people that I know from work had died. The lady had been struggling with a real bad case of cancer for some time and finally succumbed to it. That was sad news but not shocking.

The other death was shocking. A guy that I was a friendly associate of, talking car restoration and stuff like that, committed suicide just last night. All we know is that he had spent some time in the hospital, was released, then he blew his brains out. He didn't have any real friends it seems, only his parents, but I wonder if he was even that close to them. He did talk about his dogs like they were his entire world, though. I hope they are in good hands now. I hope he is in good hands now, for that matter.

Most people described him as a loner. It was really hard to get to know him past being an acquaintance. His abilities to start or maintain friendships seemed to be a real challenge for him. I don't feel guilty for not getting to know him better. I don't feel it necessary to take on friends that I don't really want to be around and there was something about this man that I just did not feel right about--to get closer to him. Still, I will miss him and wonder why he found life not worth living. He will not have a funeral. His body is being donated to medical science. That is just sad.

Update on my mother:

She is still in the hospital recovering. The mastectomy was successful. Two types of cancer were found in the breast. The doctors feel that they got it all. Let's pray that they did.

11 comments:

Corn Dog said...

I am so sorry to hear all this. Hugs to you and your Mom. I'll be praying.

goldennib said...

I am sure that the man from work appreciated your conversations. Some people just find this life too hard and need to start over.

You are so strong, to deal with all of your life with such humor and caring. You are very inspirational to me.

Lots of love to you. I'm glad they got all of your Mom's cancer.

I have said a pray for all four of you.

Photogirl said...

Its always shocking when someone takes their own life. You have to think things must have been pretty bad for them to take such drastic measures. Someone I knew committed suicide just after we graduated high school, and it sent our whole town into shock for quite some time.

Glad to hear a good update on mom!

Scott said...

My thoughts and best wishes are with you!

Scott

vera said...

you're always in my thoughts grunt-o man...
it's never easy to hear when someone passes away, but the voluntary extinction of one's life is a mess of mystery to me...
*massive hugs and a whole lotta love*
/vera

Scary Monster said...

Me also hopes that the docs did a good job on yer mom. Nobody should have to go through it twice.

Me liked yer frank response to the suicide. Whenever something like that happens, people occasionally hear a little voice that tells them that they could have prevented the death if they had been a little more friendly.

It just ain't so.

STOMP on, Cap'n!

cindra said...

Mortality. Wow. Sorry for the losses, and I know that you are an exceptional human and that man probably got a lot from the words you did exchange. Hard to know how these things come to pass.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mother right now. XO

Serena Joy said...

What an awful thing. It's hard enough to deal with one such blow, but a double whammy like that is too much. Alas, when someone decides to take his or her own life, there's nothing anyone can do to stop them short of locking them away somewhere. It's sad.

I'm so glad your mother's surgery was successful. I hope she'll have a speedy recovery. And I hope YOU are coping all right.

Jules said...

I'm sooo relieved to hear that your mom's surgery was successful. And I'm really sorry to hear about your sad news when returning to work. A million hugs, babes... and prayers, of course!

Sun Follower said...

Good news about your mom - I hope she recovers and has years of healthy mothering ahead.

You have been dealt some serious cards by the universe about "loss" in myriad of forms... and while I have no doubt it must be incredibly difficult at times... you are an inspiration.

Mayden' s Voyage said...

I'm praying friend...and I'm so sorry for these dark times-
T and I are thinking of you...
Hugs :) and a smooch if you can handle that with your lowered immune system- T says I can!!!
:)