Friday, March 23, 2012

Major Bummer

I attended a viewing (couldn't stay for the funeral) of a former co-worker today. He committed suicide on the 14th (self asphyxiation from car exhaust) . Man, the dude was only 21. He leaves behind an expecting wife, who has a lot of social anxiety problems. I've been pretty bummed about this for the past week, but I've kept it fairly quiet.

I know most of his family personally and it just doesn't add up. He came from a great and loving family. He was really great with his wife. He worked hard and was a warm, friendly young man. You can't do the math on this kind of tragedy--you'll go mad if you do. There's no one thing that is the cause. There may be a trigger, but it is not the sole reason.

I don't like going to funerals, but this was worse to see a man in his prime laid out in a casket: his family in their best contained sorrow and his sobbing wife, beyond grief, stuck in a dead-eyed stare with her deceased. If I could paint a picture of this scene any better, I'd promptly burn it to hell and rid the world of such a sight.

This was absolutely senseless, but I cannot judge him. I have no idea what was really going on in his world. I can say what things in my life drove me to similar shades of bleak, but I cannot be that person who knows the answer or "knows exactly how they felt", because I don't. There's too much suicide where I live. It can't be glossed over anymore.

The frauds have to own up to the conditions that they've (we've) set upon us. If we allow frauds to be our fathers, friends, or inner voice, they will only lead us over the bridge and into our own reflection--the last thing we'll confront before the impact is the truth--ourselves.

You can read whatever you want to in that last statement. It has its own merry meaning to me. Take care of what is dishonest in your own personal life and seek professional help if that is not enough.

7 comments:

Nessa Roo said...

Suicide is one of the hardest things we have to deal with. It's a heart-breaking thing, even if you weren't very close to the person who did it. I hope his wife is able to move past it.

Jam♥ said...

All I can say is, "I know the feel bro."

Christielli said...

This is very heart-breaking, and must have been very hard for you to witness. My thoughts are with you.

Megan said...

Sometimes I try to use logic to dissect the reasons my own brother took his life, but quickly abandon my attempt. Who knows why people make that choice, regardless of their circumstances. I'm glad that I've learned to recognize the fraud within me... life is much more peaceful now. xoxo

tys said...

nothing i say is going to make this any better...i hope that family has someone to lean on..

you are rite ...most of what we express can be justified under the garb of so many convenient truths..we only fool ourselves most of the time...i for one am so guilty of it..

The Grunt said...

Thanks everybody!

Jules said...

:O( Oh Grunty, that's sad. I've only known one person who committed suicide, but he was in deep with drugs and alcohol and was completely lost. I don't think he even knew what he was doing. I am very sorrowful for this man's wife and baby. I hope you are ok...

xo